(04-30-2019 3:11 PM)nicemonster Wrote: Anyways my question is, some mones steer you (BW) and some mones require steering. I've checked the site and i was wondering if there is a page where we can see how to be congruent with a product so we get the best results.
Some of the journals, as well as some of the members, go into details about how they acted, what they said, mitigating circumstances, etc. I am guilty in spades of this and my simple posts tend to read like long, wind-bag, self-absorbed novellas; my journal reads like the endless meanderings and trains-of-thought of a dictionary-spewing lunatic . I agree that having a context of how (or perhaps even why) something worked is quite helpful.
It also makes for lengthy reads.
Most of the established products have a more or less agreed upon congruent attitude and behavior set; but while these are not directly nor intentionally added into the discussions, a consensus appears, and can at least be discerned through a thorough reading of what everyone else has stated.
But you have wildcard users in there as well. For example, BW sends people running for cover whenever I wear it, regardless of how I present myself or whether or not I steer it open and friendly, or let it steer me. By the same token, TLG makes me a seduction virtuoso (well, I do OK) and AV (especially with M3X or Mr. Vetiver) gives me lots of respect and Alpha VIP treatment.
Given that all people are different and the same product will affect us in different ways, the best we can do is to find a mean-average of attitude and personality type that it may work best for. This will not be all people, but an acceptable majority of users should fall into that particular class. On most of the products I've tried, I'm right in the acceptable behavior paradigm for the results, on some I'm way different or way over the top, and on a scant few I'm the exception and not the rule.
But yes, being congruent is a huge help. It all comes down to pheromone usage, despite what many think, being YOU plus the pheromones. If the pheromone exudes an aura that isn't YOU (the real you, not what you think you're projecting) then what your pheromones shout out about you and your body language and demeanor states about you will be at odds.
Now some folks are great at allowing, or role playing, various aspects of themselves to instantly become dominant in their outer mien. These lucky few can use just about anything and have good results. But unless you can convincingly character act, it is much easier to find blends that allow you to become a more attuned version of yourself than to reset one's body, spirit, and mind to be attuned to a product.
It isn't by any means a requirement to use a particular product, and one can always work on fostering the outward convincing appearance that the pheromone projects; but my opinion is that maximum alignment with one's pheromones will help to achieve the maximum results.