The guy is not mentally mature enough yet to know when he has a great thing. I think that he was honest and that has to be respected. He isn't ready for a real woman mentally. He is only ready for one sexually. I'm glad that you didn't cave into your desires. So onward and upward MissJelly! The mones did their job and showed you that you deserve better even if you didn't want to believe it at the time. The only thing that got ruined was him getting into your pants and eventually breaking your heart. I saw it's a win/win.

(12-22-2012 3:55 PM)as33156 Wrote:  The guy is not mentally mature enough yet to know when he has a great thing. I think that he was honest and that has to be respected. He isn't ready for a real woman mentally. He is only ready for one sexually. I'm glad that you didn't cave into your desires. So onward and upward MissJelly! The mones did their job and showed you that you deserve better even if you didn't want to believe it at the time. The only thing that got ruined was him getting into your pants and eventually breaking your heart. I saw it's a win/win.

thanks as33156. absolutely right =) glad i didnt cave in. hope it was the mones

(12-23-2012 12:14 PM)missjelly Wrote:  thanks as33156. absolutely right =) glad i didnt cave in. hope it was the mones

Nope, sure wasn't! That was all you and the moral standards you set for yourself. Well, that and your ability to resist temptation too.

I think it's possible that he was asking more questions about you because Beta Androstenol aside from making people talk is a bonding phero.

(12-23-2012 4:16 PM)halo0073 Wrote:  I think it's possible that he was asking more questions about you because Beta Androstenol aside from making people talk is a bonding phero.

maybe..not sure if its genuine like he actually wants to get to know me or its just the mones that made him wanna ask lol

(12-23-2012 5:32 PM)missjelly Wrote:  maybe..not sure if its genuine like he actually wants to get to know me or its just the mones that made him wanna ask lol

It could be both. Him wanting to get to know more about you because he finds you exotic and interesting but not wanting make it deep but then the mones make him feel calm enough to do it.

This doesn't mean that because he wanted to get to know you more that he would want more then just sex. I often like to know what makes women and guys tick and will ask questions of people all the time. But I can ask women tons of questions to about what im interested in and think that they are fascinating even though I only want to be friends with benefits.

With guys a lot of times what we say is what we actually mean. I use to tell my ex that all the time when she would ask me what do I mean and I would tell her I mean what I just said and she couldn't take at face value. I'm rather simple that way whatever I say I mean so there is no reading between the lines in conversation with me. Some women find that perplexing.

(12-23-2012 5:41 PM)as33156 Wrote:  I'm rather simple that way whatever I say I mean so there is no reading between the lines in conversation with me. Some women find that perplexing.

NO. That is NOT perplexing, it's refreshing.

It's how it should be. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Although that's gotten me in trouble more than once...

(12-23-2012 7:51 PM)NuTrix Wrote:  NO. That is NOT perplexing, it's refreshing.

It's how it should be. Say what you mean and mean what you say. Although that's gotten me in trouble more than once...

A little trouble never killed anybody. Now a heap of trouble thats another story

I glanced through the thread and agree with thundr, but heres my take from a man POV which you may not like.

First, lets not sugar coat bullshit.

(12-21-2012 2:07 PM)missjelly Wrote:  he asked me if i like any guys now, i said no (i didnt want him to know)

I have been in here many times before (now I know better) and you want truth from him but not telling it yourself.
If he believes your words, you aint in the game.
If he doesnt, he feels like he's going where he's not welcome, disrespecting you etc, and of course you have a million "outs" if he were to try anything.
The perfect LFBF setup he has seen many times before.
And often it comes from the same mouth that loudly proclaims to "tell as it is", "with me you know where you stand" and "If I like someone they will know!"

This is why its good for guys to learn game, which says if your at her place alone, she wants you.
Unfortunately no amount of Beta nols seems to get the actual truth out of many women ime.

Although unlike women, guys tend give many more chances at mating unless you really piss them off or offend them.

(12-23-2012 8:12 PM)as33156 Wrote:  A little trouble never killed anybody. Now a heap of trouble thats another story

True! And it's better to take the flack for telling the truth than it is to be caught in a lie, imo.

(12-23-2012 8:17 PM)Pheroman Wrote:  Although unlike women, guys tend give many more chances at mating unless you really piss them off or offend them.

Apologies, I don't know if you intended this to be funny, but I laughed out loud when I read it...it's SO true. I've always found that an endearing quality and I LOVE that about you guys! Though mating is an interesting term...polite, lol.