(12-17-2017 1:49 AM)onlythebest Wrote: ...H) she began acting quite differently towards me. Instead of being friendly and very flirty, she started being rude; even acting hostile towards me. She started telling other people that I work with that I'd screw anything and that all I care about is getting into women's pants
This is interesting considering that you did not change your behavior/make advances towards H. In which case, I would not have allowed this girl to spread calumny about me which can hurt your status at the workplace. I would have confronted H about this and set her straight saying, 'Listen H, why are you talking rubbish about me?...Please provide proof of your accusations!' If this didn't help, I think that you could have made a legitimate complaint to have a sit-down with the boss to discuss slander. Interesting that ETFZ inspired a 'turnaround' in one subject, while painting your vibe as a player with H.
onlythebest Wrote:If you are not careful you could end up making your target feel very uncomfortable with your advances and make them not want to spend time around you at all. Or even worse: make them think that you are a pervert or creep who is trying to take advantage of them. That will not end well for you. I'm lucky enough to have H basically forced to be in my presence at work. But if she wasn't than she would probably have stopped spending time around me and would potentially still be telling everyone to avoid me like the plague.
This happened to me earlier this year and I had written it up. A young teacher's assistant at my kid's school fell under the spell of NA and NA/Androstadienone that I was wearing. Over the 3 month period, she became stalkerish, playing up to me, jumping up from her chair the moment she saw me and somehow always ending up near me almost like she wanted to pick my pocket. I had escalated by asking her for a coffee to which she became frightened, but subsequently used lame excuses to back out of it. After some time, I hit her up once again (which I shouldn't have as it shows one as needy) and surprisingly, she agreed to a meeting during the Summer...though when I pressed her for more info, she got ejection anxiety and she backed out of it. Of course, she spread this around and most of that school being females...started avoiding me like the plague or recoiling from me. I am known as the 'player' there...though, there was one pretty brunette chick who did smile and she went out of her way to help me while the others recoiled; she purposely went against the tide. I can only guess her motives, but I don't look a gift horse in the mouth.
The good news: I DON'T WORK THERE...hence, they really couldn't do anything to me when I decided to take the risk...they can't fire me. I wouldn't recommend job romances in general. The other good news is that the target no longer works there and most of the staff (that was privy to this) has been replaced! I still get looks here and there with one feminist beeyotch giving me a double take...stopping in her tracks and giving me a death stare when she saw me in my car.
Good thread...these mixes are powerful and you are right, they need expert steering. Despite this, the nature of the game always has an element of risk/uncertainty and the man always bears the risk of rejection/harassment charges/being labeled etc. At least at non-threatening venues (dance club, bar, cafe)...you can walk away and hopefully, not see the target. With a threatening venue like work, it can have serious unwanted consequences if it backfires.