So the new guy I'm with is into talking dirty while doing it. I know he wants me to also. Frequently says things like, "how do you feel?" "does it feel good?"
I cannot bring myself to say anything dirty without feeling silly. I don't even know what to say. I usually respond with a, "good" "yeah". I'm by no means silent in bed...you'd think thatd be enough!
Anyone have any tips on what to say? Or how to get over the awkwardness of dirty talk in bed.
(03-12-2014 6:05 PM)Isis Wrote: [ -> ]So the new guy I'm with is into talking dirty while doing it. I know he wants me to also. Frequently says things like, "how do you feel?" "does it feel good?"
I cannot bring myself to say anything dirty without feeling silly. I don't even know what to say. I usually respond with a, "good" "yeah". I'm by no means silent in bed...you'd think thatd be enough!
Anyone have any tips on what to say? Or how to get over the awkwardness of dirty talk in bed.
He might be worried that your not into him or he is use to the woman telling him what to do or how to feel.
Took me months to figure out my woman wanted me to say " I got something for you and I am going to get you real wet"
It took alot of practice
and alot of coaxing from her to get me talking somewhat dirty....practice practice practice...and yes...it is kind of silly but fun and worth it.
Ask Him.....
Hi Isis,
It took me a while also to get use to speaking dirty during sex because I was raised not to curse so I'm use to saying words like "darn it, what the fudge when I get pissed.
I current fling says things like "Fuck that pussy, Fuck me harder, fuck that pussy harder, Make me cum on your dick baby, Just like that, You like fucking my pussy baby, Fuck your gonna make me cum, Your so deep, OMG your fucking me so good."
you can just throw in whatever suits the moment. My Asian lady friend just moans, groans, grunts, screams and says things like "more and don't stop" but never anything dirty.
If a guy in confident in his sexual skills he shouldn't feel the need to want you to talk dirty to him or the need to ask you how you feel and if you like it. She should know that by how you are behaving.
Either way best of luck!
(03-12-2014 8:31 PM)as33156 Wrote: [ -> ]Hi Isis,
It took me a while also to get use to speaking dirty during sex because I was raised not to curse so I'm use to saying words like "darn it, what the fudge when I get pissed.
I current fling says things like "Fuck that pussy, Fuck me harder, fuck that pussy harder, Make me cum on your dick baby, Just like that, You like fucking my pussy baby, Fuck your gonna make me cum, Your so deep, OMG your fucking me so good."
you can just throw in whatever suits the moment. My Asian lady friend just moans, groans, grunts, screams and says things like "more and don't stop" but never anything dirty.
If a guy in confident in his sexual skills he shouldn't feel the need to want you to talk dirty to him or the need to ask you how you feel and if you like it. She should know that by how you are behaving.
Either way best of luck!
For some, maybe lots, it's a different kind of MENTAL SEASONING, A. I have all the confidence in my touches, but there is SOMETHING about watching my lover working my cock, all fours or on top, while saying, "I'M GONNA CUM ALL OVER THIS COCK!" ... "I'M GONNA CUM ALL IN YOUR MOUTH!" ... "MAKE ME CUM! MAKE ME CUM!" ... "GIVE IT TO ME!" ... "I'M GONNA MAKE YOU CUM DOWN MY THROAT!" and lots of other different one liners, that just rooooooooooooooar! DOES IT FOR ME.
I wonder what that says about me?
Girlfriend, "GIVE IT TO ME!" "YES! THAT'S IT!" "RIGHT THERE!" "LICK IT!" "SUCK IT!" "KISS IT!" "BITE IT!" are clean, and should get the job done if any of those fits anything that YOU like. There are DVDs and VIDEOS on the subject. Google and learn!
(03-12-2014 9:30 PM)MMM Wrote: [ -> ]For some, maybe lots, it's a different kind of MENTAL SEASONING, A. I have all the confidence in my touches, but there is SOMETHING about watching my lover working my cock, all fours or on top, while saying, "I'M GONNA CUM ALL OVER THIS COCK!" ... "I'M GONNA CUM ALL IN YOUR MOUTH!" ... "MAKE ME CUM! MAKE ME CUM!" ... "GIVE IT TO ME!" ... "I'M GONNA MAKE YOU CUM DOWN MY THROAT!" and lots of other different one liners, that just rooooooooooooooar! DOES IT FOR ME.
I wonder what that says about me?
Girlfriend, "GIVE IT TO ME!" "YES! THAT'S IT!" "RIGHT THERE!" "LICK IT!" "SUCK IT!" "KISS IT!" "BITE IT!" are clean, and should get the job done if any of those fits anything that YOU like. There are DVDs and VIDEOS on the subject. Google and learn!
That just shows that you are a real man and like to have your way with a beautiful woman the way it was intended to be.
(03-12-2014 9:41 PM)as33156 Wrote: [ -> ]That just shows that you are a real man and like to have your way with a beautiful woman the way it was intended to be.
I sure hope so, A! I was thinking that maybe, just maybe, I just have a
dirty mind.
I have zilch experience in this field.... I've only been around porn hahaha! and if I ever chanced a voyage with one who's a dirty talker, hopefully it's not one that's $6.95 per minute.. Knowing myself I find it weird too... Similar to those days still remember back in food tech classes listening to my class mates orgasm on their feast.
"Seeusmile... omg I just love how the food just blah blah blah in my mouth.. and whatever passionate vocabulary from iron chief tv show or my kitchen rules"
and then waiting for me to say a thousand words and I'm like... "uhhhh yeah...it's nice.." "It's good" "yum.." but in the back of mind i'm thinking who fuck talks while eating anyway!! I can't talk with my mouth full.. I want to eat in peace!
Anyways Isis if you don't feel comfortable talking dirty then you don't have too :3, It isn't an essential part of intimacy. (IMO)
but bottom line is, if you are uncomfortable tell him
don't be afraid to ask for help
and maybe he'll respect your wish or ask you what makes you feel comfortable. Perhaps change the style of dirty talking?. are you uncomfortable with words?
I'm sure there's alot of stuff online about this. Read what ways you can be that for him but at the same time feel comfortable. The important part is that he understands and try to work things out with you
(03-12-2014 6:05 PM)Isis Wrote: [ -> ]So the new guy I'm with is into talking dirty while doing it. I know he wants me to also. Frequently says things like, "how do you feel?" "does it feel good?"
I cannot bring myself to say anything dirty without feeling silly. I don't even know what to say. I usually respond with a, "good" "yeah". I'm by no means silent in bed...you'd think thatd be enough!
Anyone have any tips on what to say? Or how to get over the awkwardness of dirty talk in bed.
Repetition. Really, the more you do it, the less awkward it will feel. I've had women tell me it was awkward for them as well, but all I have to do is get them turned on enough without penetration and they will do
anything I ask them to. I ask them afterwards and they always say they never thought talking dirty could be so erotic and enhance the orgasm so much and thus, they become dirty talk addicts. It sounds like he may be too eager to get some that the anticipation and sexual tension factors are not strong enough to elicit the sexuality in you enough that you'd forget about any awkwardness in the act. Either that or you can always get a job as a phone sex operator to get some experience. ;)
I have heard all sort of things, my current girlfriend can tend to be impulsive so she gets her self in trouble alot and some times things like "Fuck the bad girl out of me" "Make me a good girl" things of that nature and some more graphic depending how its going so dont think just let it roll out.
