(05-15-2017 9:15 AM)theLaw Wrote:  Women want to marry a Man.......not a Boy.

(05-15-2017 9:15 AM)theLaw Wrote:  I think what BarefootOxford is saying is Men want to marry Women.......not Girls.

Having said that, there is a flip side to that coin : Women want to marry a Man.......not a Boy.

(05-15-2017 9:43 AM)BarefootOxford Wrote:  Close enough. Since she is the one who is asking for advice, I can only advise her. Her stated goal is to save the marriage, and saying anything against her husband works against that goal.

(05-15-2017 10:17 AM)theLaw Wrote:  Unless her husband is an Olympic-level-p*ssy, in which case you're still correct, she can't save the marriage........either way, when a woman is in charge of fixing a marriage, sadly, it almost always fails, because it's not her job.

(05-15-2017 10:22 AM)MMM Wrote:  Curious to know whose JOB is it, LawMan?

(05-15-2017 10:33 AM)theLaw Wrote:  Only a dude can rectify being a p*ssy........not his wife.

(05-15-2017 10:41 AM)MMM Wrote:  FACT; but all relationships requires/should require the work of TWO. Being a pussy is on him. But it's her that's here making the attempt, so maybe he's not a pussy, just that with time, like so many others, the relationship has become routine and boring.

Quote: I was desperately searching the net for something to save my marriage, we have a 3 year old son, and obviously divorce isn't an option. We both love each other but we don't really have chemistry.

(05-15-2017 10:53 AM)theLaw Wrote:  Agreed, and her post raises more questions than answers.

Quote: I was desperately searching the net for something to save my marriage, we have a 3 year old son, and obviously divorce isn't an option. We both love each other but we don't really have chemistry.

To my point above, why isn't the husband trying to save the marriage as well?

The fact that she left out so much vital info makes me wonder if there's not an elephant in the room that she's refusing to discuss while instead looking for a quick-fix.

(05-15-2017 5:11 PM)Hudzickleslush Wrote:  Oh wow so many replies thank you. Our marriage is really really good everything is great! He is funny and caring (though he doesn't like to show it) he takes care of our son and helps around the house and always tried to make each of my needs and wants complete.... Except when it comes to sex. See for me it's something important and I could never understand why but I would always get excuses from him. I finally found out it's because he isn't "attracted" to me on a physical level.

(05-15-2017 5:17 PM)Hudzickleslush Wrote:  it's not a big deal to him he can live with intercourse once a month....

(05-15-2017 5:31 PM)Spider-mone Wrote:  how was the sex before you had a child?

he was obviously attracted to you at some point so what has changed?

he could have an underlying medical issue that causes low libido or he has a lying issue!

could there be someone else in the picture? there's an old saying .... if you're not having sex with your husband ... someone else usually is!

(05-15-2017 5:32 PM)Hudzickleslush Wrote:  I thought it might be too. He isn't gay though. He doesn't watch porn. So I also thought it must be testosterone but he gets full erections and has no trouble with it (the morning wood) I know he prioritises his sleep (looovessss sleeping). Essence of Woman should increase testosterone levels by 150% though right? ugh this is so frustrating. It doesn't have much of an effect on him he is just more... Smiley. Oh and after we had the argument where he said he isn't attracted to me, two days later we had intercourse four times in three days....... That's is a MASSIVE difference I was thoroughly shocked because I didn't do anything different.

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Well it was better than it is now but still wasnt.... I don't know the best it could be I guess??? I do think he has a lower libido than me. Puh I'm like a raging furnace

(05-15-2017 5:44 PM)theLaw Wrote:  Erections from sexual attraction and morning wood are not necessarily related, but if he can get hard quickly with you, then there's probably no issue.

It honestly sounds like he's just not into you physically any longer, which would make me wonder about other women...........harsh, but the possibilities are pretty limited here.

Have you gained any weight, or made any changes with yourself lately?

(05-15-2017 5:59 PM)Hudzickleslush Wrote:  I have actually lost weight.... I am a little... Uh muscley. I think im not feminine and soft (personality wise), my hips are... Shapely, I just have no breasts. I know he isn't with any other woman he used to look at boobs on Google.... Agggges ago I am addressing that matter separately though. Are there really no pheromones that could help?

(05-15-2017 5:59 PM)Hudzickleslush Wrote:  I have actually lost weight.... I am a little... Uh muscley. I think im not feminine and soft (personality wise), my hips are... Shapely, I just have no breasts. I know he isn't with any other woman he used to look at boobs on Google.... Agggges ago I am addressing that matter separately though. Are there really no pheromones that could help?

(05-15-2017 5:59 PM)Hudzickleslush Wrote:  Are there really no pheromones that could help?

(05-15-2017 7:03 PM)mark-in-dallas Wrote:  Wow, we're now on the the 3rd page and although I may have missed it skimming through, I didn't see anybody actually trying to tell this girl HOW to use mones and that you just can't spray them on and expect magical results.

Hudzickleslush, keep up with the Essence of Woman , but don't expect it to do everything for you, put on a couple of drops, wear something sexy or at least show him that your making an effort, maybe initiate some touching, bat your eyes at him a bit, whatever, just do something to get his attention and a reason for the Essence of Woman to cause a reaction.

And, best of luck!