Okay, many people have been asking me about IOI's, so here is a complete list of IOI's as defined by Mystery in his book "How to get beautiful women in bed." The Mystery Method. Hope this helps you all. It helps me to review them every now and then.

*She re-initiates conversations when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you
*She looks back and glances at you repeatedly ever minute or so
*She tosses her hair (to see if you will look)
*If eye contact happens from a distance, she holds it for a second
*She smiles at you
*She stands nearby (proximity)
*She interrupts your conversation from nearby or laughs at something you said
*While walking by, she turns her body toward you or brushes against you
*She says something to her friend and they both giggle
*She asks you for a light or the time or in any way initiates a conversation
*While you're talking to her group, she is particularly talkative (to get your attention)
*She asks you for your name
*She asks you your age
*She compliments you
*She is playful and tries to challenge you
*She's disagreeing but laughing
*She's punching your arm but laughing
*She uses nicknames for you
*She plays with her hair while talking to you
*When she is sitting next to you her leg touches yours
*She repeatedly touches you in any way
*She asks if you have a girlfriend
*She mentions your girlfriend without knowing if you actually have one
*When she has to go to the bathroom, she comes back
*She holds eye contact for longer periods of time when she speaks with you
*She avoids mentioning her boyfriend
*If it comes up that you like something, she mentions that she likes it, too, or needs someone to show her how to do it
*When she says or does something, she looks at you to see your reaction
*She looks at you from the side, to hide the fact that she's looking
*She introduces you to friends
*She buys you a drink
*She calls you a player or a heartbreaker
*On her way out, she re-approaches you to tell you that she is leaving
*On your way out, she asks you where you are going
*She returns your calls
*She invents reasons to be near you, interact with you, or have isolation with you

Passive IOIs

*Her friends go (to the bathroom or bar or dancing) but she stays
*She moves to see you and hangs with you for extended periods
*If you move, she follows you or waits for you
*She doesn't flinch or pull back if you happen to get too close
*She doesn't resist when you escalate physically (or she gives token resistance to avoid feeling like a slut)


The most important IOIs to look for are:

*She re-initiates conversation when you stop talking
*She giggles
*She touches you
*She tries to get rapport and build comfort with you

My additions

She mirrors your body language
She is shy, doesn't speak, can't make/maintain eye contact
She gets the Deer in the headlights look
She preens (adjusts clothes, hair, checks herself in mirror)


In general look for IOI's in bunches.

most of this is common sense, not to be rude, just reminding some ppl, key thing to look for is her effort/investment. just dont be blind to it, no need to put an effort to look too hard into it either.

my fav to look for if I ever do is to watch for her proximity and dilated pupils.

I have a certain co-worker who was hit with my Cohesion/Connections combo the first day we met, so ever since I've revolved around that combo a bit, trying to not stray too far from it and things between us just click.

Actually just yesterday I had her tell me she started bringing her own bottle of water to our work place. Now this news wouldn't interest anyone till she was telling me how one day she hopes to be able to drink Vitamin water like I do. She never really brought a drink before either. (This was like a week after I told her I drink Vitamin water when she questioned me about what I drink at work). Then I was acting funny with her saying "but Water is better than (sugary) Vitamin water" lol... Then she started jokingly stumbling at words to reply with as I laughed.

A rather small, but very obvious ioi for me
I have another co-worker the same ethnicity as her who I hear talks to her all the time as well, but I never work with him the same time I work with her, curious to see how she acts around him compared to me. No biggie tho if she is, I got other girls around