I agree with the statement alpha=strongest reality

Alpha has really nothing to do with cash, women, physique, etc. These are only byproducts of the alpha mentality.. If I excel at Y then I can get Z but I need to get better at Y first. Sure there's good looks, trust funds, natural physique.. but you know what? In the morning they put their pants on legs-first just like me.

It is in essence about being honest within yourself. Walk in your own aura created by knowing exactly who you are, what you can do, and screw what everyone else thinks.

That's why I think those 'how to be alpha' books are shit. You are essentially solidifying you will not be alpha for awhile by even considering buying a book that tells you how to act like someone else's interpretation of alpha. Alpha is inside of you not some author's head. I hear alot of mention of congruence, well that pretty much sums it up there. Just be you.

If you desire alpha mentality save the loot and get a self help book that enables you to recognize your strengths and weaknesses. Your first step to alpha is to have confidence in who you are. Next is the work required to become what you want and get what you want. It's not about what others perceive you to be or want you to be. Fuck them, its YOUR world.

You ask your chick what she wants to do tonight. She says "Idk what do you wanna do?" You reply, "Idk I asked you first.." You are living on someone else's terms. Beta

You ask your chick what she wants to do tonight. Before she answers you say, "Grab your roller skates and the box of rubbers off the dresser, I'll get the fishing rods from the shed." She is giddy with wtf you have in store for her. She is living in your world. Alpha

With all that being said, I'm waiting on my very first purchase of pheromones. I'm excited but slightly apprehensive. I'm still going out as me but now I have just sprinkled some magic shit on my neck. Will I change my environment more by thinking I have this stuff on and notice more "hits" when in reality they were there before mones but I'm just paying more attention now? I can get the same swag from a new haircut and fly pair of threads.. Idk. We shall see.

"alpha=strongest reality"
Yep, but what also matters is how that reality is communicated.

(04-17-2012 4:24 PM)thundr Wrote:  You ask your chick what she wants to do tonight. She says "Idk what do you wanna do?" You reply, "Idk I asked you first.." You are living on someone else's terms. Beta

You ask your chick what she wants to do tonight. Before she answers you say, "Grab your roller skates and the box of rubbers off the dresser, I'll get the fishing rods from the shed." She is giddy with wtf you have in store for her. She is living in your world. Alpha

Yes, in short taking responsibility.
Responsibility for the interaction, for getting things done, for both having fun.

In the modern age we can go very wrong expecting to be at what seems to be the optimal state always and everywhere. If you read biographies of people who have achieved interesting things, one realizes that periods of consolidation and retrenchment (and feeling the setback is an unavoidable part of it) are also those things that lead one on to greater heights. Sometimes one is better off going with the flow than trying too much to control things. Now if one never leaves the house, things might be different. But for many people perhaps it is okay to recognize that there will be times one is feeling social and dominant, and times one is feeling less so. If one knows people for a while in the end it's hard to put up an act forever (which is not to say one shouldn't put one's best foot forward inthe beginning).

Americans from some regions and social backgrounds often strike some other nationalities as phony because there is a sense that one has to pretend things are always great, when quite clearly they are not. Of course that is the flipside of the dynamism and optimism that has led to such great heights of achievement. But just because there is a positive side to a negative aspect doesn't mean such an aspect does not exist.

Looks like I should change my username...

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