Is this what it's come down to? You chasing women all along? Trying to prove yourself to them, to show them "I'm the real deal"?
It should be the other way around, shouldn't it? How do you actually get women to chase?
...Actually being that man.
(05-10-2015 6:36 PM)ShadowX114 Wrote: In my opinion, forget the pickup methods. You need to work on your mindset and confidence. Once you are comfortable with who you are then things will naturally follow. Otherwise, people will sense that you are trying too hard.
I'm a believer in "it's not what is being said" but rather "who is saying it".
Work on yourself.
You ever run into a girl and you just have those awkward silences because you don't know what to talk about? Well how about we work on creating some stuff to talk about.
Go out with your friends, enjoy your time spent with them. Afterall, bros before hoes am I right? Create some moments in your life that you'd love to share with others. It doesn't even have to be very "cool, exciting" things.
Anything is better than coming into the office with
"Hey John, what's up?"
"nothing much" and ending it there
Variety is the spice of life, don't just stick to one career path, type of friends, hobbies, you like. Change it up.
I've had a college & highschool professor who'd always love to go on about his many life stories. Telling us how he's held 16 different jobs, worked there and here, couldn't believe his eyes when this happened...etc etc. He's always got a awesome, cool, life inspiring story for every class. And it's not like he spends time purposely remembering all the details just so he can share it with us, he does it of his own accord.
I'm trying myself to be this man since quite recently. And honestly it is tough, being the leader sometimes. The Alpha. You need to be proactive, to lead, to take the risks.
I have a few 'beta' friends, who I
rarely see anymore since highschool. We don't hang out or anything. Why? because none of us are willing to organize or initiate it. So now that I have done it once or twice before, I've had them asking me whens the next time we can do something.
I have even had a very few of my female co-workers asking
me out to do something. But I'd always end up beta-ing out saying something like
"yeah we should" ending it there. or "Hey XyzN, can you take me out fishing sometime, I want to see what it's like". But sad me just agrees like the conversation just flew over head. And this is the same woman in my journal who loves to run her hands up and down my chest when we work together. Who stares and smiles at me. Who throws sexual innuendos around me like it was the norm.
And it fucking breaks me up inside because of how passive I am being about it.
The idea is to worry more about yourself than the approval of others. Everyone wants someone else to do the work for them, sure, I do too. But if you and me are to get anywhere beyond being a slave for someone else, we need to pick up the stick and trudge forward ourselves.
As I quoted Shadow earlier, girls will naturally flock to you once you feel like your life is on track. I've started and already am seeing the wonderful results. Won't you join us?
There are books, Subs, and other things people recommend. But I believe this is the easiest and most natural way you can start having women stick around you.
(05-10-2015 6:08 PM) Wrote: You have to work up to getting models. That doesn't mean you have to start with the fat chix, it means that going from 0-hero is almost unprecedented.
I've had a co-worker of mine who was spotlighted by everyone for being a "model" and "queen", who would even be chased by the creepy 60yr old in our dept.
She'd fall in love for me.
0 game on my end. Want to know what I think caused it? Pheromones. There are time you run into those people who just are so damn receptive and she was one of them. I'd say 90% of w/e it was that caused her to want me was because of mones. Took her out to the movies, but very "friendzone-ie" like way. But being as I was, I didn't escalate at all and we forgot about each other.
i.e. don't put women on a pedestal. You shouldn't think or treat them like they are more important than your own life goals. Everyone can see this, & when it does happen it's hella awkward for both parties. Treat her as an equal and share w/e it is on your mind.
another thing,
Lots of us say "10%, only 15%...etc" of interactions is based on pheromones, but me and lots of others run into times where it seems that % is very much the other way around.
No one here wants you thinking Pheromones will get you the woman of your dreams by themselves, because they won't. We say this because we want you as the user to understand that it is you, yourself, that is causing all this happiness around you. Pheromones didn't lift your legs outside the door, you did. Pheromones didn't tell you to talk to that girl, have sex with her, become the married couple you always wanted in life,
you did.
sorry for the essay, the Connections got to me again.
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