(05-13-2015 7:31 PM)BeautifulEnigma Wrote:  Agreed, I guess I'm just trying to give his situation the benefit of the doubt.. also so he can walk away without any "what ifs," you know? Anyhoooo smelling the coffee does sound nice. Lol

There'll ALWAYS be what-ifs. Even when the desired result happens. What if I hadn't got together with her, maybe I could have got together with someone hotter. Etc.

I'd much rather deal in what-is. Less mind-f's to deal with.

As for the coffee, fly on over to my side of the world and I'll make you some - freshly ground, freshly brewed, always delectably aromatic.

(05-12-2015 12:20 PM)TheLastDecision Wrote:  My ex is currently in an online relationship with another guy, she has lots of romantic and sexual feelings for him.

Meanwhile she has no romantic feelings for me that I can detect, though given we've been together for almost 10 years, I have a feeling they're just being overshadowed by the new ones. If he hadn't been around, we'd still be together.

You guys are harsh! But since everybody started throwing stones:

I say, "GAME OVER!" But he has to do what he has to do until he begins to see that it's OVER.

The disrespect in the above statement alone, would be enough for me to MOVE ON. But all over the world, guys are getting into relationships and handing over their nuts. LIVE & LEARN.

AS THE WORLD TURNS .......................................

We don't throw stones. We just kick ass. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE MMM!!!

(05-14-2015 7:35 AM)kimosabe Wrote:  We don't throw stones. We just kick ass. KNOW THE DIFFERENCE MMM!!!

Yes, Dear.

Ixnay on the earday!

RTBoss might see this! Or Paradox might report it to him!

(05-14-2015 7:14 AM)metaltree Wrote:  I would like to add that just because a guy didn't get the girl doesn't mean the pheromones didn't work. I've personally experienced moments where pheromones gave me great opportunities that would not have been possible otherwise and I screwed it up and ended up with nothing. In those cases I would say the pheromones were great and I sucked.

And whether you intended to or not, you cited a perfect example of one of the traps we are trying to help newbies avoid: Expecting to much from the pheromone and/or not putting forth enough effort of their own. A missed opportunity is no better than a non-opportunity.

Is it not better than to tell them to expect little and be pleasantly surprised if they get more out of a pheromone than what they were anticipating, then to have them expecting to much and then being sorely disappointed?

And as for throwing stones at TheLastDecision, none of us are trying to hurt the guy. He's in a bad situation and we are just trying to help him see the light and not feel any more heartache than he already does. We've all had our hearts ripped out and trampled on. We've all tried to win back a lost love at one time or another. We've all played the blame myself for losing them at one point or another. We've all learned how the final outcomes usually go, and we all really want to see him come out okay, whichever way things end up.

And, if he's completely set on trying to win back her affections, we're trying to show him what we know to work best.

(05-13-2015 8:13 PM)metaltree Wrote:  Do any of us really understand the situation enough to give advice on how to deal with his relationship? I say we make the assumption that he knows what he is doing and then give him pheromone advice.

It seems to me that we all understand the situation - it's perfectly clear. We all came here with preconceived notions and assumptions about what pheromones could do. We all had to give up our preconceived notions and learn the truth.

I'm not a big fan of referring to it as a percent, but calling it a small part of the equation is accurate. I think accessory is the best comparison, particularly in this case. Buying a Rolex watch isn't going to help. Neither will a whole new wardrobe. Neither will pheromones. And that's the best pheromone advice we can give.

This is better than TV!

(05-14-2015 8:09 AM)mark-in-dallas Wrote:  And as for throwing stones at TheLastDecision, none of us are trying to hurt the guy. He's in a bad situation and we are just trying to help him see the light and not feel any more heartache than he already does. We've all had our hearts ripped out and trampled on. We've all tried to win back a lost love at one time or another. We've all played the blame myself for losing them at one point or another. We've all learned how the final outcomes usually go, and we all really want to see him come out okay, whichever way things end up.

And, if he's completely set on trying to win back her affections, we're trying to show him what we know to work best.

I used the words THROWING STONES, because TRUTH HURTS.

Love the saying, "THE TRUTH HURTS ONLY ONCE ... LIES HURT EVERY TIME YOU THINK ABOUT IT." The exception, LIARS.

He has to experience THE JOURNEY. I hope that he learns. Some don't.

"You can work the mones, but mones can't work you! You're gonna have to fix yourself ... yourself!" --- MMM

Last one in the pool is a rotten egg!

To be continued ...